Every now and then I have that weird moment. You know, when you look in a mirror or see a picture of yourself and can’t help but think “is that me?”. Not in a negative way, more as in “is that how I look for others?”.
Awareness is key in reflecting yourself towards the outside world. When you feel insecure, you will be seen as insecure and visa versa. The biggest reason for me being bullied as a child was my insecurity. I was a bit weird and a bit different but happy to be so. But at the same time I wasn’t confident enough to take on the fears and doubts of other people about my personality. I mean, different is scary for most ‘normal’ people! I didn’t fit in and voila: I got insecure.
In most cases insecurity works like a tornado of suction. When you feel insecure, you will be seen as insecure. People in your environment will confirm that insecurity by their behaviour and make you feel ‘righteous’ in feeling this way. “You see. I knew no one would like me”. This will lead to you feeling even more insecure and so on goes the vicious circle.
If you are awkwardly aware of that fever blister on your lip everyone will be. If you feel hate your freckles everyone will sense your insecurity about it. If you feel fat and unattractive that is exactly how the world will see you.
“Market research suggested that only 4% of women describe themselves as beautiful, and around 54% believe that when it comes to how they look, they are their own worst beauty critic”.
Dove Real Beauty Sketches is a short film produced in 2013 as part of the Dove Campaign for Real Beauty marketing campaign. The aim of the film is to show women that they are more beautiful than they think they are by comparing self-descriptions to those of strangers.
In the video, which was produced by the Ogilvy & Mather ad agency, several women describe themselves to a forensic sketch artist who cannot see his subjects. The same women are then described by strangers whom they met the previous day. The sketches are compared, with the stranger’s image invariably being both more flattering and more accurate. The differences create strong reactions when shown to the women.
Source: Wikipedia, Ogilvy & Mather
Remember that you are what you think. Don’t let insecure thoughts control your feelings about yourself. Don’t forget that you are the only one in control! So get your cute ass in front of that mirror and tell yourself how bloody good you’re looking today. Compliment yourself about all those things you love about you get out there and shine!
Be nice to yourself. You’re a treasure.
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